Below is part of a chapter from the second main section of The Human Experience by Dhyana Stanley
which points to how the inner determines the outer.
A Deepening Sense of the Whole
We are here not only to realize the truth of our being but to express it. If we realize what we are but still move from fear or a sense of obligation or cultural expectation than the realization has not yet integrated into the whole of life.
When there is some level of realization we are then lovingly given the opportunity to move from that realization – which is the very opening to an ever deepening sensing and expressing of truth. Sometimes this comes as a surprise to those who realize their true nature but when we see through our conditioning it should not be very surprising to then find that conditioned ways of moving and expressing ourself begin to feel alien. We don’t realize truth and then continue to move from fear or a sense of need or lack. Life doesn’t move that way – consciously.
Before we realize truth we make decisions from the conditioned sense of self which is obsessively judging life now to be lacking. Beliefs about what should be done to work toward some sense of well-being in the future dictate what we do regardless of how we really feel or how it may interfere with what others want. Past programming is in charge of what we do and how we express ourselves now.
If we are conditioned to believe that we should have a certain amount of money in the bank before we retire, that it is better to take a less desirable job that includes health insurance over a more desirable job without health insurance or that we should always weigh a certain amount and make sure we exercise each day then our actions will be an attempt to uphold those beliefs regardless of stress or how we really feel.
And if we are conditioned to believe that supper should be on the table at a certain hour, that the children need to do their homework right when they get home from school and that they need to go to college, that we should never decline a friend’s invitation or certain traditions need to be upheld during birthdays and holidays than those ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ drive our decisions regardless of stress or how we and others really feel. A fear based sense of obligation or cultural expectation motivates our actions.
But when conditioning is seen through and that whole foundation for making decisions collapses – how then do we move within this new way of being? If all the ‘shoulds’ and ‘shouldn’ts’ are gone – if the sense of well-being is full now and nothing more is needed to secure it - how then are decisions made?
After the realization and a deepening sense of truth, I gradually noticed how differently my body feels when thoughts and feelings pass freely than it does when there is identification with them. When all thoughts and feelings are free, my body is relaxed - there is no sense of stress. And when there is resistance or identification, my body is tense and my stomach feels tight.
After a while, this sensitivity to my body very gradually increased to the point that I could often immediately feel in the body whenever there was resistance. And then something happened which was the opening to a deepening sensitivity and commitment to how life is now moving.
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When we’ve been conditioned to get things done in order to feel good about ourselves and then we realize that nothing needs to be done in order to sense well-being the doing motivated by a sense of lack falls away. There may then be a period of settling into this natural way of being that may not initially involve a lot of doing before a more natural, harmonious, spontaneous, loving and joyful way of moving arises.
The holiday cookies may not be baked this year, the decorations may not even be brought out, the house renovations may come to a halt and the yard work may not get done as quickly or as thoroughly or maybe not at all – and then some or all of that may start up again or some completely new and unexpected movements may begin but whatever is now done is done in joy rather than to fill some perceived lack. The doing in the hope to gain fulfillment or approval or anything at all is vastly different than the doing for the sheer enjoyment of the doing.
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